• To be happy one wants both money and status; in actuality the two may move in different directions

• For happiness self-identity is shaped by choosing to work or care for others.

• Increase in options may make one rather unhappy. ‘Maximizers’, who evaluate all options before acting, are not the ‘satisficers’ who identify a satisfactory choice and act on its basis.

• One has many conflicting desires, which produce dilemmas, ambivalence, and indecision.

• Happiness may lie in affirming what we have rather than pursuing what we do not have. Change of attitude from wanting to have what one does not have to feeling happy about what one has can make the person happy.

• Happiness comes from hoping, faith and optimism, i.e., from happy thinking, not at the end of actual events.

In the above, the first four, 1-4, are covered under paradox of aims; 5-7 are covered under paradox of success; 8-10 are covered under paradox of freedom; and 11-12 and paradox of attitudes. These paradoxes suggest that to be happy is to choose to pursue a few meaningful activities and relationships sacrificing self-interest and convince the self that one is happy in pursuing these activities; they may or may not result in success and success may not result in happiness. Walling also says that ultimately happiness is about what you do to be happy rather than what you find eventually.